New Year’s resolutions are generally designed based on what I call the “Try Harder Model,” which combines insight with action, and a dose of willpower. Unfortunately, the Try Harder Model is seldom sufficient to make lasting change because it is a vague aspiration and these types of resolutions don’t work well with our human brain. According to a recent study, if you make a New Year’s resolution this year you have an 88% chance of failure.
Don’t be discouraged and don’t stop reading yet…I am going to share three strategies on how you can increase the probability of success.
Strategy #1: Design ONE new habit over time
There is scientific evidence that indicates that your brain can’t handle New Year’s resolutions because your prefrontal cortex is the center of willpower and it is a muscle that needs to be trained. The prefrontal cortex is also responsible for staying focused, handling short-term memory and solving abstract tasks, so it is a muscle that is busy performing daily functions. If you decide to make a New Year’s resolution and want to be successful there are several things to consider.
- Pick one resolution that is important to you.
- Break it down into phases over a few months.
- Write it down and tell others what you want to change. Let them know how they can support you and hold you accountable.
- Reward yourself to increase your chance of success.
Research shows that to develop a new habit it will require daily repetitions over some period of time before the behavior becomes a “habit.” If you Google the question, “How long does it take to form a habit?” you will probably get an answer of around 3 weeks. However, the European Journal of Social Psychology found that 21 days may be reasonable for something like drinking more water each day, but most changes in habit take anywhere from 18-254 days and if you break it down into phases (baby steps) you have a much higher probability of success.
For instance, if you want to make a New Year’s resolution to sustain a daily practice of meditation, here is how you will want to design your resolution.
- Start with 10 minutes a day for two months and set your goal for 3 days a week.
- In the third month, keep your daily practice at 10 minutes a day and increase your goal to 5 days a week.
- Increase your goal every two months until you have achieved a daily practice of one hour daily.
Strategy #2: Annual Intensive – make the next twelve months your most successful ever
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Some New Year’s resolutions are based on a desire to change something that has become habitual due to lifelong “programming.” Studies in neuroscience indicate that as much as 88% of our consciousness is actually subconscious. The subsconsciouss represents a powerful influence on our attitudes, values, and beliefs, which form perceptions about the world and ourselves, and from these perceptions we develop habits and behaviors.
Generally, it is self-defeating habits and behaviors we wish to change. One of the most effective ways to change a behavior is to change the subconscious belief that supports the belief or behavior.
The Try Harder Model is based on the 12% (conscious mind) and that is why repetition and small steps build a habit. It actually is like a drip feed into the subconscious mind and that’s how it is integrated over time and ultimately becomes a lasting change.
PSYCH-K™ provides a variety of safe and effective ways to “rewrite the software of the mind by changing beliefs that limit you into beliefs that support you… simply and easily.”
The process directly facilitates communication between the conscious and subconscious portions of the mind, moving you from the Try Harder Model using 12% to Ease and Grace using 100% of you mind.
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If in the New Year, you are challenged by ever-increasing demands in your professional life or not quite feeling connected to your passion, I’d invite you to contact me. Together we can explore how I may support you in having your best year both professionally and personally.